Rebel
I met Lily at lavender MRT station, and she was going to introduce her new netfriend, Alvin.A decent and quiet guy. We walked to the same place to buy our same stuff. Lily bought her commando black tee while Alvin bought army stuff. As for me, I tried ahrd to resist the temptation to buy more clothes. Thank God, the auntie remembered us. Seems like most the shop vendors knew us or rather lily. At last, I got myself floral bermuda cost $25.Lily said it looked on me. I seriously gave up and bought it.
After that, we went down to have a drink since the weather was really warm.Went to the same drink stall, but ordered different drinks. Alvin's been quiet again. Well, I was not surpised since it was his first time meeting us. Then I suggested to have early dinner or late lunch at bugis. But we saw the coffeeshop was closed hence we alighted at Orchard Rd when It started to pour. Lily spotted Douglas O at takashimaya. While waiting for lily, I managed to strike conversation with Alvin. He told me that he was usually very quiet, somehow introverted. He also tended to get nervous. I was just try to make him feel comfortable with me as well as Lily. We walked to the Far East Plaza and had our meal at Magic Wok restaurant. I ordered mee goreng, Alvin ordered pineapple rice whereas lily order pad tai ( thai noodle).We chatted much durinng the lunch.
We got to know Alvin more closer.About him being unusually quiet, not liking green vegetables and his personality. lily said that it might the lack of self-confidence that may caused lily to be very quiet or maybe anti-social. Project! if we were to change Alvin to better and more self-cofident, didn't that make us fairy godpeople?I was more willing to change someone for better as it does make one happy if u helped other happy.Maybe what Alvin lacked is social self-confidence.
Social self confidence can be difficult to find sometimes because it is unclear what you are 'supposed to do'. In this event, concentrate on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to:
find out if you like the other people present
make others feel comfortable
find out some information
make business contacts
and so on...
People are often most comfortable with others when working towards a common goal. The common goal of socialising could be making friends, the exchange of mutually beneficial information, expanding your knowledge of different types of people... it could be whatever you want it to be! The key is to have an aim.Somehow, one should not dwell much from the past. Just because one have felt bad about oneself in the past doesn't mean one are always going to feel that way.Plus being confident is not built overnight. I used to be very introverted duing my school days. I hated myself, I did not even dare look at my own reflection. Hence , having comb is more like uneccesary item for me. I could not be bothered whether my hair was messy. But of course, there was period when I really need self-esteem and self-confidence to survive. I paid high price for being over-confident now.
Anyway, after Alvin left us to meet his freind hougang, I asked lily to accompany me to heeren to do ear-piercing. Yes, I decided to do my ear being pierced. It cost only $3.90 plus free stud. I chose green stud earring. It was very embarassing when the girl tried to gunned. I hate mutilation of body. But, the pain was not tat bad, but I only worried my decision would cause wrath to my mum. lily told me that the hole would close back fast if I did not wear the stud for many days.
The feeling of having something on my earlobe is very weird. Regret?Maybe. I did not know at the moment. I felt good about being firm and decisive to get what I want, no matter it was bad or good. The feeling was extraordinary.Then I took bus home , hopeful that I reached home on time for tuition.Yes I did. Had a quick bite and I'm off to tuition.Hopefully their parents were not around.
After tuition, i decided to tell my mum about my piercing. Gosh, I could see disappointment and anger on her face. She scolded and despised those who wore earring.Plus it was against the religion. She asked me if i was not feeling shameful about it and how I was going to face when I grew older as the hole would stay permanent. I told her not. After nagging, she just gave up hope on me. I looked like hooligan now. Aiyah, she was worried about people said about her more than me. It's my life and I had rights to be what I wanted to be.I was sensible enough to know what's wrong or right. I just wanted to try anything new and adventurous. At least I did not tattooed myself.
After that, we went down to have a drink since the weather was really warm.Went to the same drink stall, but ordered different drinks. Alvin's been quiet again. Well, I was not surpised since it was his first time meeting us. Then I suggested to have early dinner or late lunch at bugis. But we saw the coffeeshop was closed hence we alighted at Orchard Rd when It started to pour. Lily spotted Douglas O at takashimaya. While waiting for lily, I managed to strike conversation with Alvin. He told me that he was usually very quiet, somehow introverted. He also tended to get nervous. I was just try to make him feel comfortable with me as well as Lily. We walked to the Far East Plaza and had our meal at Magic Wok restaurant. I ordered mee goreng, Alvin ordered pineapple rice whereas lily order pad tai ( thai noodle).We chatted much durinng the lunch.
We got to know Alvin more closer.About him being unusually quiet, not liking green vegetables and his personality. lily said that it might the lack of self-confidence that may caused lily to be very quiet or maybe anti-social. Project! if we were to change Alvin to better and more self-cofident, didn't that make us fairy godpeople?I was more willing to change someone for better as it does make one happy if u helped other happy.Maybe what Alvin lacked is social self-confidence.
Social self confidence can be difficult to find sometimes because it is unclear what you are 'supposed to do'. In this event, concentrate on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to:
find out if you like the other people present
make others feel comfortable
find out some information
make business contacts
and so on...
People are often most comfortable with others when working towards a common goal. The common goal of socialising could be making friends, the exchange of mutually beneficial information, expanding your knowledge of different types of people... it could be whatever you want it to be! The key is to have an aim.Somehow, one should not dwell much from the past. Just because one have felt bad about oneself in the past doesn't mean one are always going to feel that way.Plus being confident is not built overnight. I used to be very introverted duing my school days. I hated myself, I did not even dare look at my own reflection. Hence , having comb is more like uneccesary item for me. I could not be bothered whether my hair was messy. But of course, there was period when I really need self-esteem and self-confidence to survive. I paid high price for being over-confident now.
Anyway, after Alvin left us to meet his freind hougang, I asked lily to accompany me to heeren to do ear-piercing. Yes, I decided to do my ear being pierced. It cost only $3.90 plus free stud. I chose green stud earring. It was very embarassing when the girl tried to gunned. I hate mutilation of body. But, the pain was not tat bad, but I only worried my decision would cause wrath to my mum. lily told me that the hole would close back fast if I did not wear the stud for many days.
The feeling of having something on my earlobe is very weird. Regret?Maybe. I did not know at the moment. I felt good about being firm and decisive to get what I want, no matter it was bad or good. The feeling was extraordinary.Then I took bus home , hopeful that I reached home on time for tuition.Yes I did. Had a quick bite and I'm off to tuition.Hopefully their parents were not around.
After tuition, i decided to tell my mum about my piercing. Gosh, I could see disappointment and anger on her face. She scolded and despised those who wore earring.Plus it was against the religion. She asked me if i was not feeling shameful about it and how I was going to face when I grew older as the hole would stay permanent. I told her not. After nagging, she just gave up hope on me. I looked like hooligan now. Aiyah, she was worried about people said about her more than me. It's my life and I had rights to be what I wanted to be.I was sensible enough to know what's wrong or right. I just wanted to try anything new and adventurous. At least I did not tattooed myself.
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